thefrisky:

“We let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She can’t cut my hair but that’s her hair. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that it is hers. She is used to making those decisions herself. We try to keep giving them those decisions until they can hold the full weight of their lives.” (via Why Will And Jada Pinkett Smith Let Daughter Willow Cut Her Hair - The Frisky)

lacigreen:

from the latest Sex+: Fat Shame

“I’m so fucking sick of people being all offended at fatness. I am sick of people expecting fat people to hide themselves away out of public sight, never being seen at the shops, at the gym, in the workplace, on the street. I’ve had enough of people complaining that they saw someone’s fat arse, arms, belly, thighs, whatever. I’m tired of being told that fat people should cover our bodies, wear dark, minimising, flattering clothing. That we shouldn’t be seen in leggings, tights, sleeveless tops, short shirts, tight jeans, swimsuits and short skirts. I’m sick of fat people being told they should starve themselves, never eat. I’m royally fucking fed up with being expected to hide myself away like I’m something to be ashamed of. I’m over being hated simply because I exist in a fat body.” —

2012: The Year of Living Fatly « Fat Heffalump 

(via bookishboi)

chubby-bunnies:

UK size 14/16

This is a big deal for me because this is image of my body that I used to hate the most, but recently I’ve come to realise that all of it is mine, it works perfectly and feels fantastic to be in, so why hate myself? :)

How did Disney Channel go from this:

to this:

“Health concerns” about fat grind my gears, man. I am growling right now and clapping on my words.

You cannot tell what someone’s lifestyle is by their body!!!!

You can be fat and work out every day, have a healthy balanced diet and it’s just the way your body is. Why are so many people willing to accept the fact that a thin person can be lazy, eat junk food all the time and still be thin but not the other way around?

Would you like to know why? It’s the subconscious fatphobia that is taught to us every single day! From sitcoms (“no fat chicks need apply”) to weight-loss ads that shame fat people (“does your fat make you look like THIS?”) and teach that losing weight is equivalent to gaining health (“lose weight and get healthy”)

No, man. Wrong. Nutritional healthy diets and exercise can result in weight loss, but it doesn’t always. Health looks different on every body.

All that aside, if she were sick, how does that justify comments like “there is nothing attractive about obesity”, would you say that about someone who had any other illness such as cancer, AIDS, etc? If you want to criticize someone for being “dangerously fat” to the point that you “fear for their health”, realize that you are criticizing someone for being sick! How is that in anyway okay?!

Health concern trolling, you are in the wrong no matter what.

You cannot diagnose someone by looking at them and someone’s health is none of your business.

EDIT: This goes both ways, like this week when someone was “concerned” for my friend Mikaela because she is bony. That is her body! That’s the way it is! She shouldn’t feel ashamed and she shouldn’t have to change just so YOU think she is healthy.

“Weight loss does not make people happy. Or peaceful. Being thin does not address the emptiness that has no shape or weight or name. Even a wildly successful diet is a colossal failure because inside the new body is the same sinking heart.” — Geneen Roth (via pornandgore)

touch-too-much:

GloZell. Am I Ugly…

YOU ARE FAT AND FINE GLOZELL!!! <3

lacigreen:

well my little love, it goes something like this.  some people will try to make you feel like you should look a certain way in order to be beautiful.  they’ll do everything they can to make you believe that if you don’t look that way, you aren’t valuable or important or wanted.  

but this is a lie.  you already are beautiful.  every single thing about you is beautiful, from the freckle above your nose to the wrinkles on your knees.  and you are very important.  to me and dad, to grandma and grandpa, to your friends at school, to your teachers.

those bad people are just trying to distract you from being something great.  your greatness scares them.  those “oppressive beauty standards” are there to keep you focused on everything that you are not (and nobody is, sweetie) instead of all the wonderful, powerful things that you are.

now go out there and show em you’re in charge, ok?

Hahaha, NO!

Trigger Warning for past tense negative body image:

I lived most of my life under the belief that I was monstrously ugly and was not worthy of being seen in public. I thought people gagged when they saw me and that it was impossible for someone to find me physically appealing. I thought beauty was everything and that I didn’t deserve to be happy because my physical appearance was so grotesque.

That kind of idea was drilled into my head from different influences, including my dad and the media, the manipulation of making you think that you are “fat” and that if you are fat then you are ugly and no one will ever like you, you are unattractive, and you are a broken human being and should fix yourself so that you look like “everyone else”

BUT NOW, I live in much more clarity. People come in all shapes and sizes, there is no ONE WAY to look, and having “ideal beauty” is not everything, it’s not going to make you happy. You can be happy no matter what body you are in. Life is too short to worry about how we look so much, wasting valuable time worry about rolls and cellulite and pimples and stretchmarks when we could be making our own happiness.

I’ve grown to like myself a lot and feel very comfortable in my skin, I don’t expect people to find me physically pleasing, it’s not my concern. They can vomit at the sight of me if they want, it doesn’t matter, it won’t stop me from living my life the way I want to, from being happy.