Many of you have probably heard of the CEO of Abercrombie and Fitch’s controversial and flat out rude comments that the company doesn’t sell XL or XXL sizes for women because they want “cool” people to wear their clothes. Well, this blogger wrote an open letter to Jeffries and included these photos of herself and what is considered a “typical” male model body type.
Some quotes from her letter:
“The only thing you’ve done through your comments (about thin being beautiful and only offering XL and XXL in your stores for men) is reinforce the unoriginal concept that fat women are social failures, valueless, and undesirable.”
“This is largely attributed to companies like yours that perpetuate the thought that fat women are not beautiful. This is inaccurate, but if someone were to look through your infamous catalog, they wouldn’t believe me.”
“P.P.S. You should know your Large t-shirt comfortably fits a size 22. You might want to work on that.”
This has to do with fashion, though perhaps not in the way this blog has so far posted. But this sort of confidence is the sort of thing that we want our choices in clothes to reflect. You should be able to wear whatever you want and feel confident - no matter what other people may say or think.
This is truly and amazing video. So much so I have goose bumps and teared up.
I so wish there was more voices like this as I was growing up. I was so lucky to have a mom who taught me the power of kindness and true self worth, but never a day went by when I was not cruelly ridiculed, wounded and judged simply in what I loked like, not who I was. Indeed it was not until I was 27 that I even Found a community that supported and cherished me on both my appearance, but more importantly started to really believe I was, beautiful and sexy, outside and in.
Please please, everyday, try your best to treat people with kindness and have the courage to challenge what the general society deems pretty, acceptable, or comfortable. Live with and share love, and if you can, let anyone you know they are perfect, just as they are.
I read a quote at some point, that said that fat girls who love themselves scare the shit out of people who don’t. I think that is very true. My friends say I am surprisingly “self pleased” (English language lacks a word here! This was the best translation I could come up with), because, surprise surprise, I don’t hate myself. I love me! I am awesome! In fact, I think all people are awesome. I could easily see plenty of reasons why they are beautiful, amazing people! I love life and the people in it.
I think I’ve almost always had a very positive look on life: as a young teen, many teachers and family members would say independently of each other that I “rest within myself”: I don’t struggle with myself, never really have. Sure, there are plenty of things that are changing all the time within me, but it doesn’t drain me of my love of life.
I think part of the reason I am so positive, is that I don’t let myself miss out. I am fat, so? Doesn’t mean I can’t flirt with attractive men at parties. Doesn’t mean I can’t dance like crazy at the club. Doesn’t mean that I can’t sunbathe at the public beach.
At graduation, as pictured above (hence the hats) there are two traditions that I know a lot of people were surpised a fat girl like me participated in. Heck, I was even a bit surprised! One is pictured above: All 450ish graduates go to this fountain and dance around it, in it, on top of it. To get to the top is a bit of a climb, and I therefore settled for dancing on one of the lower levels, simply because I didn’t think I would be able to pull my fat body up there. But then my friends, who are used to me never missing out, used to that I am always center when we have a silly fun time, they thought that of course I should be up at the highest level of the fountain, and helped me up there. Of course I shouldn’t miss out!
The support of my friends, meant that I had no doubts when it came to the second tradition: Skinny dipping in the harbour. And I can add, I live in a harbour city, meaning the harbour is in the middle of town. And it was daytime. But, off with the dress, and in we went, no second thoughts! And again, people who knew we weren’t surprised, and people who didn’t (or even those who do, but continue to see me as a “selfhating fat girl”, because surely, that is what all fat girls ought to be like?), could hardly believe their eyes. “Was that a naked fat girl, joining in with her longtime friends in a tradition that has nothing to do with size or shape of bodies?”
Yesterday, some old friends invited me to a beach party. I remembered that they had also invited me 3 years ago, and I had said no, because I didn’t want them to see me in a bathing suit. I was taken aback, I could hardly recongize that person! And I even know I was still a happy-go-lucky person then, even though I was still unsure of my body. So if I can go from feeling good, to feeling awesome in 3 years, what might the future hold? I can only look forward to it (:
So that was my little tale, of how I feel about myself and the world ;)
Denmark, size can be anywhere from EU size 44 to 54.
I just saw some photos of a 300-pound girl posing in her underwear. I’m sure she did it with the good intention of teaching girls to love their body no matter what shape or size or color but I hope we also remember that while it’s important to be comfortable in your own skin, it’s also important to be healthy. The only way to truly love your body is to take care of it.
Weight doesn’t necessarily act as a measure of health though. The girl in the photos might be healthy, just as the size 8 girl in a photo on my dash might not. I know this is just your opinion, but I really think it’s important to separate the two.
^Going to add a little more to this.
Please note that any time I use the term ‘you’, I mean it in a broad sense, and it is not directed at the OP. I have omitted their url in an attempt to prevent them receiving hate. Anywho, here we go.
Please don’t fat shame under the guise of worrying about health. It’s really condescending. If you are not a doctor working with the person in the photo, you know nothing of their health, and therefore should not express an opinion on it.
I don’t know how many times I need to explain this. Fat does not equal unhealthy. Thin does not equal healthy. Every person and every body is different, and while extra weight may be unhealthy on one person, that does not mean it is on another.
I mean, I have a naturally large build. I’m 230 pounds, and you know what? I’m healthy. However, if my younger sister, who is naturally around 120, were to gain a lot of weight, it would be unhealthy for her. Just as it would be for me to shrink down to her size. We’re both currently healthy at our own body weights and we both feel no need to change them.
So, if you see somebody and make a judgment about their health based solely on their weight, remember that you are not their doctor and therefore do not have a say in the matter.
What the poster above me said is completely valid, of course. But it’s also important for OP to understand the following two things:
- This 300lb girl you saw committed an act of bravery, the likes of which you will never understand unless you yourself have been 300lbs. She’s spent her entire life being victim to snickers, insults, disgust, and so-called ‘concern’ of everyone around her. She’s been told her body is wrong every single day, by media, by family, by friends, by strangers. She’s been told she has no right to love her body. She’s been told she’s a victim of an ‘epidemic’, that she’ll never be happy, she’ll never be loved, she’ll never be beautiful. Somehow she ignored this enough to take the pictures you saw. Tell me, how do you think she’d feel if she saw what you said about her?
- Yes, she may be healthy. (check out this post on more for that.) But you know what? She may not be healthy. And if she’s not healthy, it’s still not your place to judge her. She could not be healthy because she has Cushings Disease or Binge Eating Disorder. She could have an underactive thyroid. She could be poor and not have access to fresh, healthful foods. She could just really like Twinkies. The point is, it DOESN’T MATTER. You have no right to dictate what it means to ‘truly love your body’. To you it means one thing. To me, it means another. To the girl you saw, it means another. And that’s okay, because guess what? She’s not forcing her decisions upon your body—so don’t force your decisions upon hers. You cannot begin to imagine how hard it is every single day to have a body that literally doesn’t ‘fit’ into the norm. You cannot imagine what it does to your MENTAL and EMOTIONAL health (which I’m sure you didn’t mean when you said ‘it’s important to be healthy’) to see people say hurtful things about your body, to hear people say ‘I can’t eat a piece of cake, I don’t want to get fat’, or ‘you’re not fat, you’re beautiful!’ (because of course you can’t be both!), or ‘ugh fat people are so lazy’.
All bodies are good bodies.
A 400lb girl in her underwear.
since, you know, obesity is this horrible unhealthy epidemic and all.