Anonymous asked: annie! how do you help someone lose weight who wants to lose weight? i want to be supportive of my boyfriend, and sometimes he needs the extra push to get him to work out. but i also don't want to see pushy and like i don't love him the way he is. i love his body! but i also want to help him get to the body he wants to have. how do i do this?

If someone wants to change their body, I don’t typically reinforce it, and I don’t fight it either. If someone wants something, they have to go for it. The only thing I am cautious of with my friends and family is if they are doing anything that might harm themselves, even then I can’t tell someone what to do with their bodies, just make them aware. 

My advice is to be a silent supporter, to not reinforce the goal (in case it’s not possible) and to not fight it either. Make him aware that you will support him no matter what he decides to do, that he is wonderful as is, losing weight would be different, not “better”, he will always be beautiful in your eyes. 


moonhaus asked: that should only work if we link our tumblr to twitter or facebook though, am i right?

If you have the same email address, it’s possible they can still find you. 

A blue dashboard sign popped up, offering: “Find your friends from facebook and twitter on Tumblr”

I believe the way to cancel that out is to not have your TUmblr connected to either site and go to https://www.tumblr.com/preferences and uncheck the box that says “Let people find me by using my email address”


Anonymous asked: Hi


Anonymous asked: how can i go about buying a dildo or vibrator without my mom knowing? i'm 15 and she has already seen my personal massager from durex, but now i need a change. i don't have a credit card, but any shipment i would receive, she'd be suspicious. i'm too awkward to confront her about this, but i'm sure she would oblige to me getting one. ugh please give advice ):

I guess you meant oppose, right?  Hmm…

  • Do you have ANY 18+ friends, or friends with fakes that you could give cash to and then they can pay for it?
  • Do you LOOK 15? I’ve only been t adult stores a few times and they’ve never carded me to check if I was 18, why not just give it a try yourself and if they ask for your ID you just say that you must’ve forgot it in the car and then leave, haha!
  • When I was younger, I would improvise dildos… household items… vibrating [neck] massagers… that’s a possibility too, and you don’t need an ID at Bed and Bath, haha!

EDIT: If you live around a Spencer’s, they may not ID either.


Anonymous asked: WHY would you change the password on Elle She was one of my favorites and i've talked to about 20 SHYB followers and we're all upset. Why would you be so cruel. BRING ELLE BACK! BRING ELLE BACK!

The password was changed and all the admins were sent a message with the new password. She somehow missed it, but as of today she’s confirmed she found it.

It’s clear you care for Elle dearly. Understand that I do too. Her and I are friends. And if for one reason or another she were to not be as active or not active at all SHYB, we have our reasons.


Anonymous asked: do you like the musical hairspray?

I LOVE Hairspray, that’s my jam, and I love the integration/body positive story line :)


killing-em-softly asked: That GOTYE cover is by Pentatonix. There is another really cover of this song by Walk Off The Earth. :D

Thank you!!!


la-corny asked: i love your icon! could you post a bigger picture of it?

Yes and thank you! :)


Anonymous asked: I really hope you answer this! I know someone who thinks that it's partially a woman's fault for getting raped by going to a party alone and getting drunk. I was outraged when I heard their opinion on this topic. It upset me greatly because I know people who have been raped and the torment they go through. This was sparked by the postsecret today. They are saying a girl should have more sense than to go alone to a party and get drunk. Please tell me your opinion. I'd love it.

Trigger Warning: rape culture

The thing that really irritates me about rape culture is the idea that women should live in constant fear.

Women. You aren’t safe anywhere! You are not safe when you are out and you are not safe in your own home. NEVER be alone. NEVER drink. NEVER wear short skirts. NEVER flirt. It all makes you a target for violence and sex crimes! You live in a world where because you are a woman, you are a target for crime, so just you know… stop living your life. If you don’t follow these rules, you were basically asking for it.

It makes absolutely no sense to me to blame women for crimes against women.

It was not their fault.

But she was flirting with him/leading him on! That doesn’t mean that a sex crime is justified, that does not mean it was her fault.

But she has sex with so many people! That doesn’t mean that a sex crime is justified, that does not mean it was her fault.

But she was walking by herself in a short skirt! That doesn’t mean that a sex crime is justified, that does not mean it was her fault.

But she no one forced her to get so drunk! That doesn’t mean that a sex crime is justified, that does not mean it was her fault.

Victim blamers just shut your mouth. Could people be more cautious? Always, we could always be more cautious, we could be cautious to the point where we just stop living and constantly live in fear (I hope you are understanding the irony of me pointing out the ridiculousness of what you are asking of people).

Once a crime is committed, it is not the time for shoulda coulda wouldas. It is not the time to point fingers at the victim for their behavior, you do not condemn victims of a horrific crime, it is NOT the victim’s fault.


Anonymous asked: Have you ever read a fic of that or seen a video?

I think I saw a “trailer” of Faberry “Imagine Me & You”…

Here’s one, however I don’t think it’s the one I originally saw…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Js2oEPjgmS8

and there’s this

http://annieelainey.tumblr.com/post/18027042026

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Anonymous asked: Faberry in Imagine me and you?

I like what you are saying but I’m afraid I do not understand why you are saying it.


uhliz asked: Just curious, what was your first tattoo? By the way, I love your blog!

Thank you!! I wrote a post about it here :)

http://annieelainey.tumblr.com/post/15466514575/here-she-is-guys-fresh-from-the-night

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Anonymous asked: You should do more fashion photos! You have the coolest style!

Wahhh! Thank you!!


Anonymous asked: Oh my god, you look good as a guy too! All around amazing.

Wee! Thank you!!