[TW: slut shaming, rape talk, sexual abuse etc]
YES, I AM A SLUT.
yes i am a slut by clementine cannibal (by ClementineCannibal)
“yes i am a slut. because i have big tits that pour out of pretty much every shirt. because i like to show them off. because i used to charge 200 an hour and sometimes i would come and my client wouldn’t cuz that’s how much i was into fucking. because i’ve had trains run on me. because i liked it. because in grade eight a boy pulled down my shirt and bra in front of the whole class and my teacher and everyone saw my nipples. because he got a slap on the wrist and i was told by the principal that it was partially my fault because of the shirt i was wearing. because after that i started showing my tits to guys cuz i figured i was used goods. because when i was nineteen and being assaulted by a bunch of guys for not shaving my armpits they felt the need to pull my tits out of my shirt. because when i was twelve my grandfather forcibly made out with me. yes i am a slut. because i love sucking dick and i’ll take his load all over my face and tits and in my mouth. because i used to get drunk and fuck random guys all the time even on weeknights. because i’m bisexual and everyone assumes bisexuals are slutty even when we’re in monogamous relationships. because i’m a femme queer grrrl and everyone thinks femme queer grrrls are just ‘doing it for attention’ and are accessible to men. because the first time i was kissed in a way i actually like my girlfriend and i were told we were disgusting and going to burn in hell. yes i am a slut. because i fucked my boyfriend in the ass with my strap on. because i used to work in a sex shop. because i love the night. because i wear miniskirts. because i smoke weed. because i flirt. because i’ve gone to bars by myself. because i’ve pissed in alleyways. because sometimes i like sex. because sometimes i don’t like sex. because i’ve been raped. because i’m a feminist. because i’m a survivor. because i’m a cum guzzling nympho. because i own sex toys. lots of them. because the only person who can make me come is myself and i’m fine with that. because i rub my clit when i’m being fucked. because i’ve done webcam work. because i’ve posed naked for pictures. because i like to masturbate. because i’ve always loved to masturbate. because i used to jerk off to naked pictures of women when i was like ten years old and i thought there was something seriously wrong with me. because there is nothing wrong with me. yes i am a slut. because my boyfriend called me one. because he got on top of me and screamed it in my face. because he called me it on my birthday. because random men have yelled slut at me more times than i could possibly count if i tried to sit down and write a list. because i have been called an ugly bitch, sweetheart, honey and other degrading names more times than i could count too. because i’ve been called a dyke and told to shave my armpits and my pussy and told to lose weight and told to shut up and told to say yes to my pedophile grandfather. because i am sick of being told and this time i am telling you. yes i am a slut. because my pussy is beautiful and insatiable. because i love my body. because the clothes i’m most comfortable in apparently make me a target for rape. because when i was raped i was in my bed at home. because my body belongs to me no matter how many times i’ve been violated and none of it was my fault ever. yes i am a slut. because yes, i do fucking know what the word means and yes i am a feminist and yes i am intelligent and yes i do choose to say yes i am a slut. because the police officer who said women should stop dressing like sluts to avoid being victimized was talking about me and he was talking about you and he was talking about all of us. and because if we say it’s okay to rape any of us then it’s okay to rape all of us. because the slut card can be pulled out at any time and you never know when it will be used against you. because it can always be used against you, even if you’ve tried hard to make the ‘right’ choices. because all of us are sluts because in a rape culture women are considered inherently rapable. because none of us can be free of the word until those of us who choose to are free to embrace the word. because the word will never lose it’s power to hurt as long as we allow them to control it. because i respect a woman’s right to self identify and expect the same respect in return. because i am taking a cue from my queer sisters who helped in the reclamation of words like queer and dyke, words that mean so much to our history, struggle and resistance. yes i am a slut. yes it is a complicated identity full of disempowerment, empowerment, struggle and resistance. yes it was forced on me and used against me and yes i and many of us were able to find different, new and empowering ways of relating to the word. yes we are sluts. so please hear us out. hear what we have to say. don’t condescendingly tell us whether or not we are sluts or whether or not we can find empowerment this way. yes we can, yes we do, yes we are.”
If you’re a “nice guy”...
If you’re a “nice guy” to a girl up until you realize she doesn’t want to date you, then go on about how she’s a cold shrew that friendzoned you and how no girls date nice guys, like, nah mate, girls do date nice guys. You just aren’t a nice guy. You’re a passive aggressive beta with internalized misogyny and a serious victim complex.
OH REALLY? Well, you’re obviously a girl who was on the receiving end of showers of gifts and kindness. Me? I was the one showering a girl with love and kindness. You didn’t put in the work, and invest your heart and soul into someone only to have it crushed and destroyed. You were the destroyer. You took it all an you took it for granted. Well guess what? The reason guys like me do all we do for you is because we genuinely like heartbreakers like you, so we put all of our time and effort into making you feel the same way. We wake up in the morning wondering what we can do to make you feel the same as we do,and how we can make you just as happy with us as we are with you. And then, you turn around and say “I just want to be friends”. Well here’s the deal: we don’t. If we just wanted a friend, you would have been treated like a friend, and not like a girlfriend. We treat you the way we want to be treated, we want to be your significant other so we treat you as ours. But, how do girls like you return our love and devotion? The heart crushing FRIEND ZONE! Obviously, we did what we did because you are single, and want to fill that gap, well in choosing not to date us, you’re saying that we aren’t good enough, that compared to NO ONE, we are inferior. You’re telling us that with all we do for you, we are less than NOTHING. Does any guy in his right mind really want to be in a friendship with a girl who thinks that he is less than nothing? No, they don’t. And that’s why we go on about how you’re a heartless demon who sucks the joy out of our lives with the terrible friend zone, BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT YOU ARE. And we go on to say that girls don’t like nice guys BECAUSE THEY DON’T. All you want is a hot guy. If you really dated nice guys, you wouldn’t go after and like the fucking douchebags that you do. If anyone is misogynist, it’s those assholes that you chase after because they’re hot. So don’t you dare say that we are in the wrong, we are not the bad guys, we are the good guys who provide all the gifts, who try to be the knight in shining armor. You know who you are? The cold, miserable bitch who turns him away and says, “no thanks, but i’m waiting for a better knight to rescue me from my tower. Until then you can ride around the base and give me stuff! Yay for friendship”. NO. You’re wrong. You are at fault for whatever response it is that you don’t like, because you created it. I hope you stay single forever becuse you probably have no idea what you have till it’s long gone and pissed off.
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Let’s chat.
OH REALLY?
YA REALLY.
Well, you’re obviously a girl who was on the receiving end of showers of gifts and kindness.
Well there’s your first mistake.
Me? I was the one showering a girl with love and kindness.
And there’s your second.
You didn’t put in the work, and invest your heart and soul into someone only to have it crushed and destroyed.
Well you’re 100% right about that, I’ve never felt the need to shower girls that had no romantic interest in me with romantic favours. How is that a good idea?
You were the destroyer. You took it all an you took it for granted.
Once again, quite wrong. But this brings up an interesting little personality trait you have: without knowing anything about me, not even my sex or gender identity, you already started attacking myperceived identity as a woman and began applying your own remarkably incorrect judgements. If you fly off the handle with misogynistic accusations and personal attacks at someone that you don’t even have the slightest bit of information about I feel somewhat afraid for every woman you pass on the street and the assumptions you cast on them that have spawned undoubtedly from your psychosis.
Well guess what? The reason guys like me do all we do for you is because we genuinely like heartbreakers like you, so we put all of our time and effort into making you feel the same way.
This is so fucking creepy. Who “made” you like the girls you obsess over? Where you somehow coerced into “loving” them or did it just happen naturally? Do you really think you can “make” someone romantically interested in you if they aren’t? There’s a little thing called consent, and it doesn’t just apply to sex. If a girl isn’t consenting to your advances you back the fuck off. She isn’t interested. Not because you’re “too nice” (but maybe because you’re a fucking creep) but becauseshe doesn’t feel the same way about you as you do about her and guess what that’s just how life is sometimes.
We wake up in the morning wondering what we can do to make you feel the same as we do,and how we can make you just as happy with us as we are with you.
See above. If a girl you were really uninterested in (unlikely considering your level of desperation) but I mean you REALLY didn’t like her just showered you with attention would that actually make you fall madly in love with her?
And then, you turn around and say “I just want to be friends”. Well here’s the deal: we don’t.
Woah there. You want to date someone but you don’t want to be friends with them? That’s fucked up. I mean, they can be your fuckbuddy (once again unlikely as they clearly hate you) but you can’t have that healthy of a relationship with someone you don’t want as a friend. My partner is my best friend. Every day I talk to her and she lights up my motherfucking world. You don’t want a girlfriend. You hate women. You hate women and they scare you and you want to fuck them and own them so they can’t hurt your wittle feelings anymore. Grow the fuck up. Fuck you and everyone like you you misogynistic scum.
If we just wanted a friend, you would have been treated like a friend, and not like a girlfriend.
See above. Also, fuck you.
We treat you the way we want to be treated, we want to be your significant other so we treat you as ours.
Now this is extremely creepy. Notice the very rapist-like train of thought. You cannot force yourself onto others. If they do not want you they do not want you.
But, how do girls like you return our love and devotion? The heart crushing FRIEND ZONE!
So what you’re saying is, basically, you think because you’re some super obsessive really creepy really misogynistic guy that throws candy and flowers at them that they owe you something in return? They aren’t asking you for this*. This is your choice. You’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
*Even if they did ask you to throw candy and flowers at them they still don’t own you anything. Accept maybe money back for the flowers. Absolutely nothing fucking else.
Obviously, we did what we did because you are single, and want to fill that gap, well in choosing not to date us, you’re saying that we aren’t good enough, that compared to NO ONE, we are inferior.
Nope, nope, nopity-nope. Women are -check this- human beings. They like to have friends in their lives and they simply made the unfortunate mistake of thinking you were one. You are not their friend. She does not have to date you just because you watch movies together. She just thought you were cool and could hang out. By the way, compared to a decent human being you are inferior and if you haven’t figured out why yet I strongly advise you start reading this again.
You’re telling us that with all we do for you, we are less than NOTHING.
You’re the one that only does “nice” things because he wants a reward. From what I’ve read the nicest thing you’ve done is not raped anyone. It’s like you’re asking for a fucking award for not raping them.
Does any guy in his right mind really want to be in a friendship with a girl who thinks that he is less than nothing? No, they don’t. And that’s why we go on about how you’re a heartless demon who sucks the joy out of our lives with the terrible friend zone, BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT YOU ARE.
Protip: people generally don’t date people that refer to them as “The heartless demon who will suck the joy out of their life with the terrible friend zone” it really isn’t seen as great behavioural subtext in a possible partner.
And we go on to say that girls don’t like nice guys BECAUSE THEY DON’T.
Funny, I’ve never had any problems finding a partner. And a lot of my friends are dating the absolute best dudes. I’ve become friends with really great guys through them. So, no. You’re dead wrong. Also, you aren’t a nice guy at all. You’re a “nice guy.” Oh yeah also I have a lot of friends that are women but guess what I am actually their friend.
All you want is a hot guy. If you really dated nice guys, you wouldn’t go after and like the fucking douchebags that you do.
It’s funny because you keep saying “you” which means that these are all directed at me. It makes reading things like this really funny.
If anyone is misogynist, it’s those assholes that you chase after because they’re hot.
Hmm, nope. Still you. Trust me.
So don’t you dare say that we are in the wrong, we are not the bad guys, we are the good guys who provide all the gifts, who try to be the knight in shining armor.
You think really highly of yourself. Every single thing you’ve ever done for a woman was motivated by your desire to fuck her. Not because she was nice. Not because you like her as a human being.Not because you wanted to make her happy. Not even because she was pretty. But because you think of women as objects and because you think you can buy them. No. Fuck no. Getting a woman a gift does not mean she should have sex with you. You are incredibly delusional if you think your creepy advances make you a knight of any order.
You know who you are? The cold, miserable bitch who turns him away and says, “no thanks, but i’m waiting for a better knight to rescue me from my tower. Until then you can ride around the base and give me stuff! Yay for friendship”.
I was waiting for you to pull the bitch card. That’s at the top of the “nice guy” deck. Now let me translate your idiocy into something a bit closer to what’s actually happening: “No thanks, I’m not interested in you like that. I would rather have you as a friend. I’m not desperate for romance and I’ll wait until someone I’m attracted to comes along for me to date them. Oh, you bought me Supernatural on blu-ray? Thank you that’s so sweet! You’re such a thoughtful friend I never ask you for anything but you’re always getting me things!”
NO. You’re wrong. You are at fault for whatever response it is that you don’t like, because you created it.
I’m sorry but I couldn’t even make heads or tails of this. What are you talking about?
I hope you stay single forever becuse you probably have no idea what you have till it’s long gone and pissed off.
OH NO WHATEVER SHALL ONE DO WITHOUT A PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE ASSHOLE THAT HARBOURS PROFOUND RESENTMENT FOR US IN OUR LIVES? Hahaha. NO. Cry more.
“[triggerwarning rape] And if you put as your Facebook status “I totally raped at Halo today” for your two hundred Facebook friends to see, statistically, you have just reminded thirty-three people of one of the worst experiences of their entire lives.
To describe how well you did at a video game.
Good job!
” — An Addendum, On Rape Jokes | No, Seriously, What About Teh Menz? (via lookoutsideyourself)“
While the prevalence of street harassment may be new to many men who read or hear about it, it’s not to women. For generations, grandmothers, mothers, aunts, and older sisters have shared tips and advice to girls to try to keep them safe from men: Don’t go out alone after dark. Memorize a fake phone number. Carry mace. Dress conservatively. Ignore them.
But it’s time to go beyond that well-intentioned advice which makes women feel less safe and often doesn’t work. Given how widespread street harassment is, those tips have the effect of limiting women’s access to public spaces. It keeps them on guard, off the streets, and dependent on men as escorts. No country has achieved equality and no country will until women can navigate public places without experiencing or fearing street harassment.
” — Street harassment of women: It’s a bigger problem than you think (via odetoamockingjay)Ten rape prevention tips:
1. Don’t put drugs in women’s drinks.
2. When you see a woman walking by herself, leave her alone.
3. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down, remember not to rape her.
4. If you are in an elevator and a woman gets in, don’t rape her.
5. When you encounter a woman who is asleep, the safest course of action is to not rape her.
6. Never creep into a woman’s home through an unlocked door or window, or spring out at her from between parked cars, or rape her.
7. Remember, people go to the laundry room to do their laundry. Do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
8. Use the Buddy System! If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from raping women, ask a trusted friend to accompany you at all times.
9. Carry a rape whistle. If you find that you are about to rape someone, blow the whistle until someone comes to stop you.
10. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy. When asking a woman out on a date, don’t pretend that you are interested in her as a person; tell her straight up that you expect to be raping her later. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the woman may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape her.
(From canyourelate.org.)
Wow. I am raged into silence.
Rape jokes in modern advertising. Fuck. This.
This is absolutely amazing.
“What do you think street harassment is about? Sex? Benign flattery? Attraction? Women who can’t just suck it up and deal?
It’s power. Catcalls, sexist comments, public masturbation, groping, stalking and assault: gender-based street harassment makes public places unfriendly, frightening and dangerous for many girls, women, and LGBQT people.
It’s power to control public spaces. Power to alter paths. Power to shame, scare and intimidate. Power to define what is safe and what is not. It’s the power to say: “I’m entitled to touch you, comment on your body, coerce you to smile, control your movement.” Even when women perceive catcalls as flattering, they are nonetheless aware that it’s an unpredictable degree away from possible harm.” — International Anti-Street Harassment Week: 10 Things You Can Do To Stop Street Harassment
I encourage anyone else who was upset with the Daily Show’s rape joke extravaganza to say so on their Facebook page.
I didn’t see this, I imagine it would’ve been incredibly triggering. If you did and you feel the same, please express yourself.
“Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how you wear it, how you carry yourself, where you walk, when you walk there, with whom you walk, whom you trust, what you do, where you do it, with whom you do it, what you drink, how much you drink, whether you make eye contact, if you’re alone, if you’re with a stranger, if you’re in a group, if you’re in a group of strangers, if it’s dark, if the area is unfamiliar, if you’re carrying something, how you carry it, what kind of shoes you’re wearing in case you have to run, what kind of purse you carry, what jewelry you wear, what time it is, what street it is, what environment it is, how many people you sleep with, what kind of people you sleep with, who your friends are, to whom you give your number, who’s around when the delivery guy comes, to get an apartment where you can see who’s at the door before they can see you, to check before you open the door to the delivery guy, to own a dog or a dog-sound-making machine, to get a roommate, to take self-defense, to always be alert always pay attention always watch your back always be aware of your surroundings and never let your guard down for a moment lest you be sexually assaulted and if you are and didn’t follow all the rules it’s your fault.” —
I might just copy and paste this so I can have this perfect answer ready when people say things like “but how does this “rape culture” actually affect women?” (via holdmecloser-tonydanza)
This. THIS. Read it. Now read it again. Now the next time you victim-blame, or rag on women for any of the above, you can kindly pull your lip over your head and swallow.
(via youwouldreblogtoanything)
Trigger Warning: rape, rape culture
The women who always complain about ~rape culture~ are always the women to whom no man would ever find the least bit of sexual attraction.
1. No.
2. Fuck no.if the op isn’t a troll and is actually serious then i will have no resort but to shake my head and once again lose faith in humanity.
first of all, IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT THE FUCK YOU LOOK LIKE. RAPISTS DON’T GIVE A SHIT. RAPISTS DO WHAT THEY DO BECAUSE THEY LIKE CONTROL AND POWER.
second of all, the woman who always “complain” about rape culture may actually be victims themselves, or, i’m just throwing this out there, may know someone who has been a victim of rape.
and thirdly, even the fact that one would go as far as saying the ones who complain about society handles rape culture are based on their physical appearance clearly has no fucking regard for those who have been affected by rape or know someone that has.
I don’t like reblogging/spreading reasons to lose faith in humanity, but necessary reblog for the commentary. The original post literally made my stomach turn, so I added a trigger warning, just in case. I can’t believe that someone would say something like that.
[It’s not consent if you make me afraid to say no.]
Always reblog. People don’t get this shit.
Something I wish I could tell myself three years ago.
Take note, asshole.
The Men Can Stop Rape Facebook page just uploaded new photos for their campaign. I hope this picks up some momentum, because this is one of the few campaigns that actually makes sense.
Life is too short for us not to know each other.
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