It’s fine that you feel that way, but relationships cannot be forced. That’s why the best recommendation I can give you is to find comfort and happiness in your solitude, because you might have a wait, and you don’t want to “wait”, you want to LIVE, even if for now, you are living alone.
Thank you for thinking so, haha, but relationships don’t really have anything to do with how attractive people are. I might find many people attractive and they may find me attractive, that doesn’t mean that we have a connection with each other or that we should be in a relationship.
A good romantic relationship tends to be with someone who makes a great partner in your life, someone worthy of being your best friend, you just happen to also be attracted to them romantically and/or sexually.
So for everyone out there sending me messages about “I’m not pretty enough for a boyfriend” please understand; good, healthy, long-haul relationships are not just about whether he finds you “pretty”. There has a be a far deeper connection.
HOW TO DEAL WITH BEING SINGLE (this one is actual visible to the public, woopsies!)
I like myself a lot and I’m very independent so I don’t find it very difficult at all.
I find romance in my life through art and poetry and daydreaming, romance doesn’t require someone else necessarily, just a feeling of excitement and mystery and love. I love a lot, I love life and I’m pretty sure life loves me back. I’m good.
The Single Goddess Mantra
I am unique and individual.
I am constantly growing and discovering myself
and the world around me.
I respect myself, as I respect others.
I will only partake in healthy relationships.
I find contentment from within,
whether I am in a relationship or not.
When I do love, I love fully and completely,
and expect nothing but the same in return
They call it a “crush” for a reason: IT’S PAINFUL
As soon as you put someone else on a pedestal and cause yourself to believe that they are the only thing you want/need to be happy, you’ve just made yourself the loser in the situation.
You want to date someone that is your equal. Someone you respect. Not someone who is a HUGE FAN OF YOU!
That’s just not cute.
A relationship is a partnership. It’s not one person carrying around a trophy and the trophy smiling blissfully.
It’s also a friendship. Would you want to be friends with someone who is gushing about how awesome you are CONSTANTLY? If you’re an egomaniac, maybe… but that doesn’t make it healthy or good.
When I was younger, I thought I had to have a crush on someone at all times because people would always ask me who I liked. This only led to pain. Pain that you can’t have what you’ve told yourself you want.
You don’t need to have a crush on anyone. Like YOURSELF. Other people will respect you more and you’ll find some friends that really add to your life. Maybe one of them will turn out to be someone you really care about and who cares about you.
Who knows. You can’t force it.
When it happens naturally, it’s the BEST… you just have to have a lot of patience. That’s life in general. Nothing good happens instantly.
Example: air mattresses are great, but sleep on that shit for a week or more and you’ll be hurting. They are convenient, they spring up as if from nowhere! …but they aren’t as great as the expensive pillow top queen that you saved for months to buy.
Who knew mattresses and relationships could correlate? Learn something new every day….
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Life is too short for us not to know each other.